One of the first leadership books by John Maxwell that I ever read was The 21 Irrefutable Laws of Leadership: Follow Them and People Will Follow You (10th Anniversary Edition)
. It’s an insightful, yet practical approach to evaluating one’s own leadership abilities.
So how could these 21 qualities be applied to a leadership couple?
Here’s my take on it.
- Character – Their words match their actions all the time, with each other, and everyone.
- Charisma – They naturally draw people to them by focusing on the needs of others.
- Commitment – They believe so much in their cause it inspires and attracts others.
- Communication – They express their vision such that others are able to understand and implement it.
- Competence – They can make things happen when it really counts.
- Courage – They have what it takes to do the things they fear they cannot do.
- Discernment – They can readily identify the root causes of difficult problems.
- Focus – They prioritize their time and energy in areas where they can maximize their strengths.
- Generosity – They continually look for ways to add value to others, without expecting anything in return.
- Initiative – They are constantly on the lookout for opportunities, and taking action.
- Listening – They connect well with others by paying attention to both what’s stated and not stated.
- Passion – They are so enthusiastic about what they do that they start fires in the hearts of others.
- Positive Attitude – They consciously choose to believe they can do anything they put their minds to.
- Problem Solving – They possess the creativity and tenacity to overcome any obstacle.
- Relationships – They easily find the common ground with others that lasts over time.
- Responsibility – They willingly carry the ball in pressure situations, and finish what they start.
- Security – They know their own strengths and weaknesses, and appreciate the strengths of others.
- Self-Discipline – They develop and follow their priorities and stay focused on results.
- Servanthood – They are motivated by the desire to help others, and no act is too small to do.
- Teachability – They eagerly try new things, and learn from their mistakes.
- Vision – They have a dream that leverages their past and builds a better future for others.
So how would you score you and your spouse on these? Don’t be disheartened if you don’t score well on all 21 qualities. Very few (if anyone) is great at all of them.
In reviewing this list and assessing how Lori and I match up, we made an interesting discovery. Not surprisingly we’re both strong on some qualities (e.g. Generosity) and weaker in others. But where I am weak she is strong (e.g. Discernment), and where she is weak I am strong (e.g. Self-Discipline).
That’s one of the powerful benefits of working together as a leadership couple!