Filling Your Marriage With Grace

Filling Your Marriage With Grace

Everyone benefits when a couple in a leadership position – whether at home, at church, in a business or non-profit – has a strong, growing marriage. It’s not easy to juggle our diverse responsibilities, but taking the time to work through a good marriage resource, can keep you and your spouse moving in the right direction.

I was given a book – Grace Filled Marriage – to review, and was thoroughly engrossed. I took it with me on a trip to Canada and back home again. The concepts kept me coming back again and again to read and then ponder. It’s written by Tim Kimmel and his wife, Darcy. This would be a great book to work through – either on your own or with your spouse.

Grace Filled Marriage

Imagine if marriage were the conduit through which husbands and wives could offer God’s unique grace to each other … what would a grace-filled marriage look like? The benefits of extending (God’s) grace in marriage – as defined by Tim Kimmel in this book are –

  • a secure love
  • a significant purpose
  • a strong hope
  • freedom to be different and vulnerable,
  • and to be candid and make mistakes

Sounds wonderful, right? But how can the normal, average, sin-filled, burdened husband and wife make grace a working part of their marriage? Tim Kimmel provides the clues by suggesting we exercise our character muscles:

  • faith
  • integrity
  • poise
  • discipline
  • endurance
  • and courage

In addition, every spouse can focus on the qualities of true marital greatness:

  • a humble heart
  • a grateful heart
  • a generous heart
  • and a servant’s heart

Where do these qualities come from? These gracious qualities are demonstrated by God’s attitude toward us. They need to become our default attitudes in how we deal with our spouse.

How do you sum up an entire book – filled with research and thought-provoking insights?

The above lists are only the bare-bones of the book, Grace Filled Marriage: The Missing Piece, the Place to Start. The book is filled with stories of real-life couples, including the self-deprecating humor of Tim Kimmel talking about his marriage journey. His turns-of-phrase illustrate the concepts in such a visual way, that even after you put the book down, you’re still thinking about what you’ve learned. It’s not a preachy message – just a vivid and poignant one.

Tim concludes that it’s not about making a marriage good… to great.

It’s making our marriage… good to grace. 

“…if love is all you’re depending on in your marriage, you’re going to run out of ideas and resolve sooner and more often than you’d prefer.  That’s why God offers you something more – His grace.”

I suggest using the study guide provided in the back of the book as you read through the chapters. There are some great questions included for you to ponder your own marriage relationship.
And if you and your spouse can read this book together – or share with a small group of other couples in leadership – just imagine how you all could grow!